Do you think I'm gonna be a good one?
Or one that caused all couples to break up?
The latter would be interesting -inserts evil grin face-
Why the blog post all of a sudden? I realized lots of people I know would come for me for advice on their girl/boy/woman/man problems. So I wondered.. if I'm that good, why not share it with you guys right.
I find it strange how people would come looking for me for advises when I really don't have much relationship experiences. *honest
HEY MAYBE COUPLES NEED SOME THIRD OPINION AND I JUST HAPPEN TO BE GOOD AT THAT. *a little image touch?
There may be a few things that you need to know when you're in a relationship. *my points are on both female and male side
1) BE HONEST
- Most important factor in a relationship. Lies are what ruin most relationships. Lies can lead to misunderstandings and misunderstandings lead to quarrels and quarrels lead to break ups.
I personally do not even appreciate white lies, honestly. See, being honest is that easy.
Guys sometimes lie, girls sometimes lie. They THINK they are doing the opposite when the reason is "oh, I just don't want him/her to worry".
Well, guess what, YOU'RE WRONG.
I believe all of you know what happens in a show where the girl lied or the boy lied THINKING that he/she is doing it for the opposite's good.
ENDING: BAD
Misunderstandings happen. How long can you keep that lie for?
If the opposite found out, the first thing they would ask themselves would be "Why would you lie to me?"
You know an "I don't want you to worry" reason is not good enough.
I really don't believe in "I don't want him/her to worry" kinda crap. Yes, crap.
Both parties should know what is happening. Take it as an obstacle, a test. Don't leave anyone out if there's a problem that you know he/she has the right to know.
You know he/she has the right to know when you realize you're thinking "Should I tell him/her this?"
The answer is YES.
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2) PREVENT YELLING/SCREAMING/RAISING OF VOICES
- Arguments with all of that usually do not turn out well.
Oh yes, of course it's fairly normal for couples to have fights/quarrels/arguments/disagreements. *listing a few of the similar terms because some people say they are different because of reasons -.-
To be the loudest doesn't mean you are right, obviously. Keep calm and try to THINK before you decide to go screaming about nothing.
What to think about? THINK IN HIS SHOES. THINK IN HER SHOES.
Would you do the same? Would you react this way?
Probably hard to keep calm but try to use the utterly ridiculous methods like screaming into a pillow, listening to some calm music(NOT SAD MUSIC). They might work. If they don't work, knock yourself on the wall. 100% guarantee it'll work. *i'm kidding, don't try
SITTING DOWN AND TALKING IT OUT. Best solution ever. Make sure the opposite is calm too. If they're not, give them some time to calm down but you don't want to make it sound like you want to talk to them.
"You need to calm down" screams "You're crazy right now"
THAT, will not work.
Oh oh, most importantly, make sure the problem is actually solved and doesn't end up unresolved and with either of you crying. -.- Trust me, the problem is going to come up again if you don't solve it once and for all.
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3) DROP THE PAST
- Seems to be a common problem among most girls. Sometimes guys. Not being able to accept their ex-bfs or ex-gfs. Basically not being able to accept their past.
My advice is that if you know you find it hard to accept one's past, then know one's past before you decide to get into a relationship with him/her. Or else I swear a problem later would be harder to solve.
I can understand certain pasts like "used to be in jail" or "used to cheat on someone" is pretty hard to accept. But to try to accept the past, the first and most important step is to understand the reasons why he/she did that.
You'd probably want him/her to explain face-to-face to you. Facial expressions & body language is key.
Don't expect him/her to treat you the same as they treated their ex. I REPEAT, DO NOT EXPECT THEM TO TREAT YOU THE SAME WAY AS THEY TREATED THEIR EX.
Sometimes you find yourself asking "Why can he buy his ex this and why can't he buy me that?"
Or guys "Why can her ex have sex with her but I can't?" *no offence
Wellllllllllllllllllllllll, most probable reason for that is because.. THEY HAVE FUCKING LEARN THEIR LESSONS.
Of course it's possible to make them actually trust you more. But that takes time. And the effort of them trying to trust again and you trying to prove that they can trust you. TIME & effort is the key here.
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hmm actually think I did pretty good! Even if I cause you guys to break up, it MUST be of a good cause. Haha.
Ohkay ohkay, I shan't be that mean. Not bragging but I really think I'm sucha good relationship advisor. LOL
Or one that caused all couples to break up?
The latter would be interesting -inserts evil grin face-
Why the blog post all of a sudden? I realized lots of people I know would come for me for advice on their girl/boy/woman/man problems. So I wondered.. if I'm that good, why not share it with you guys right.
I find it strange how people would come looking for me for advises when I really don't have much relationship experiences. *honest
HEY MAYBE COUPLES NEED SOME THIRD OPINION AND I JUST HAPPEN TO BE GOOD AT THAT. *a little image touch?
NOTE: READ AT YOUR OWN RISK.
There may be a few things that you need to know when you're in a relationship. *my points are on both female and male side
1) BE HONEST
- Most important factor in a relationship. Lies are what ruin most relationships. Lies can lead to misunderstandings and misunderstandings lead to quarrels and quarrels lead to break ups.
I personally do not even appreciate white lies, honestly. See, being honest is that easy.
Guys sometimes lie, girls sometimes lie. They THINK they are doing the opposite when the reason is "oh, I just don't want him/her to worry".
Well, guess what, YOU'RE WRONG.
I believe all of you know what happens in a show where the girl lied or the boy lied THINKING that he/she is doing it for the opposite's good.
ENDING: BAD
Misunderstandings happen. How long can you keep that lie for?
If the opposite found out, the first thing they would ask themselves would be "Why would you lie to me?"
You know an "I don't want you to worry" reason is not good enough.
I really don't believe in "I don't want him/her to worry" kinda crap. Yes, crap.
Both parties should know what is happening. Take it as an obstacle, a test. Don't leave anyone out if there's a problem that you know he/she has the right to know.
You know he/she has the right to know when you realize you're thinking "Should I tell him/her this?"
The answer is YES.
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
2) PREVENT YELLING/SCREAMING/RAISING OF VOICES
- Arguments with all of that usually do not turn out well.
Oh yes, of course it's fairly normal for couples to have fights/quarrels/arguments/disagreements. *listing a few of the similar terms because some people say they are different because of reasons -.-
To be the loudest doesn't mean you are right, obviously. Keep calm and try to THINK before you decide to go screaming about nothing.
What to think about? THINK IN HIS SHOES. THINK IN HER SHOES.
Would you do the same? Would you react this way?
Probably hard to keep calm but try to use the utterly ridiculous methods like screaming into a pillow, listening to some calm music(NOT SAD MUSIC). They might work. If they don't work, knock yourself on the wall. 100% guarantee it'll work. *i'm kidding, don't try
SITTING DOWN AND TALKING IT OUT. Best solution ever. Make sure the opposite is calm too. If they're not, give them some time to calm down but you don't want to make it sound like you want to talk to them.
"You need to calm down" screams "You're crazy right now"
THAT, will not work.
Oh oh, most importantly, make sure the problem is actually solved and doesn't end up unresolved and with either of you crying. -.- Trust me, the problem is going to come up again if you don't solve it once and for all.
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
3) DROP THE PAST
- Seems to be a common problem among most girls. Sometimes guys. Not being able to accept their ex-bfs or ex-gfs. Basically not being able to accept their past.
My advice is that if you know you find it hard to accept one's past, then know one's past before you decide to get into a relationship with him/her. Or else I swear a problem later would be harder to solve.
I can understand certain pasts like "used to be in jail" or "used to cheat on someone" is pretty hard to accept. But to try to accept the past, the first and most important step is to understand the reasons why he/she did that.
You'd probably want him/her to explain face-to-face to you. Facial expressions & body language is key.
Don't expect him/her to treat you the same as they treated their ex. I REPEAT, DO NOT EXPECT THEM TO TREAT YOU THE SAME WAY AS THEY TREATED THEIR EX.
Sometimes you find yourself asking "Why can he buy his ex this and why can't he buy me that?"
Or guys "Why can her ex have sex with her but I can't?" *no offence
Wellllllllllllllllllllllll, most probable reason for that is because.. THEY HAVE FUCKING LEARN THEIR LESSONS.
Of course it's possible to make them actually trust you more. But that takes time. And the effort of them trying to trust again and you trying to prove that they can trust you. TIME & effort is the key here.
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
hmm actually think I did pretty good! Even if I cause you guys to break up, it MUST be of a good cause. Haha.
Ohkay ohkay, I shan't be that mean. Not bragging but I really think I'm sucha good relationship advisor. LOL
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